Tuesday, October 4, 2011


It will not, it should not, it must not - but the real thing is, it happen. It’s given.
I noticed myself quite emotional watching the last friday episode (Sept 30,2011) of 100 days to heaven aired by ABS-CBN. The dialogue between Sophia ( Jodi Sta. Maria) and Anna ( Coney Reyes) was so realistic and so real that it truly captured my emotion. I was surprised with my own uncontrollable reaction knowing for a fact that I don’t have any similar experience like that of Sophia.   “Sino ba ako?” Sino ba mga magulang ko? Bakit nila ako ipinamigay na parang tuta? – Such lines evoked in me the desire to write this simple enlightenment which emanates from a disturbed emotion.  
What truly disturbed me was the thought that many young, innocent individuals who have been desperately searching for their own identity because of some conflicting realities – be it a marital conflict, unwanted pregnancies which resulted to adoption, economic inability for child rearing or from any other unthinkable circumstances.  In Anna’s case, it was a desperate move to hide her incapacity to handle a painful love affair, which in effect, resulted to a lifelong separation.
How many of our brethren who are facing such scenario, how many of us who are now suffering because of some mistakes, lapses caused by unreflective decisions in life? Whatever stories we have, whatever background we came from – the truth is, this is part of who we are, this is part of the many ‘givens’ in life. All of us are born to live with the given realities in our lives no matter how painful or shameful it may be.
Together with such realization, is an invitation to be courageous in accepting that we don’t have the capacity to change what was given. To be born with the kind of parents we have, to be born as a Filipino and not as a Czech or Slovak, to be male rather than female, to be born on this century and not on the future -these are all natural realities which are part of the givens of life. If we dare to look closely to the realities of life, we would probably discover many wounding experiences endured by many because they are caught into situations that they themselves has no capacity to rectify and it gradually affect their lives even at present.
Are there still hope? YES!... – To live and accept  the many  “givens” in life but mindful that we can still do great things beyond our horizon. We may have bitter childhood upbringings, hurtful family background, but it would not deter us from moving forward - to dream for more, to search for more, and to live for more.  Accepting the ‘givens’ of life is a sign of great humility to acknowledge the fragility of human existence yet hopeful to gaze at the future. 


Mommy Liz said...

Very well said. sobrang lalim ng English mo nalunod ako. ilang episodes lang ang napanood ko when I visited my mom sa Illinois, may TFC kasi sila, medyo na adik nga ako for tha whole week, but it's a good Telenobela.

Tama ka, we have to face the fact that this is our reality, we can't choose who and what we are. But sometimes we wonder, just out of curiosity. God created us with a purpose in life, I believe in that. Who are we to question His will? When I was little and food and money were scarce, I asked myself, why was I born poor? Why can't I be rich or how come no rich people adopted me? When I grew up, I accepted that it's who I am, not rich, not pretty, not smart, but the fact that I am a kind person, humble, and generous, I am happy.

Grabe ang haba ng comment ko, sorry..na carried away. Tanong ko ke mother kung ano ang ending ng 100 days to Heaven :)

Thanks for the visit to my site.


James Wendele Plaza Puracan said...

Mommy LIz, thank you for visiting my site... this is my little way of inspiring people's lives... I also have many questions in life and as i grow, i learn to accept that there were questions that needs no answer, we just have to accept all the "givens" as part of being human and from that point, gaze the world with utmost hope..
follow me pls.. with your facebook account.... hindi pa tapos ang 100days to heaven... i watch it if u have time... Im happy reading our comments... visit me always... tnx